Am I a wannabe guru?

Sometimes, it’s pertinent to check in with myself and ask myself what I’m doing. What I’m all about.

Recently, someone I respect lightheartedly called me a wannabe guru. I ruminated on that comment much more than she intended me to, I’m sure.

Am I a wannabe guru?

Well, no. I don’t want to be anyone’s guru.

When taking someone’s advice about life, it’s wise to consider the source.

I generate a lot of ideas, theories, and methods for managing life, but ultimately I still struggle with the same problems I have for most of my life.

So, I don’t think either one of us wants me to be your guru.

That isn’t to discredit myself. I find a lot of value in my analysis of my problems, and all aspirations to reach solutions.

My two greatest strengths, I believe, are self-awareness and transparency.

Double-edged swords, to be sure.

I get paralyzed in self-awareness. Like a beached whale.

And then the transparency ensures that everybody gets a chance to walk by and laugh or throw stones at me.

But sometimes, people stop to help.

And other times, wonderful conversations occur. Conversations that often involve people opening up about personal topics they are usually private about.

That’s powerful to me. And important…

Because the more we get the private stuff out in the open, the more we realize how much we’re all alike.

That goes for people in your neighborhood, and people all across the world. We’re all more alike than we think.

And the ways that we’re different don’t have to cause tension. Instead, we can find completion in our perceived differences.

And the way we get there is through conversation. Real listening. Authentic opening up. Being patient and understanding, and hearing what’s important to others without tuning out just because it’s not something we value by default.

So, what am I all about?

I’m about bringing people together.

Building bridges.

Being relentlessly open and honest.

Listening and understanding.

Inspiring people to express themselves.

Observing and reporting.

I don’t think of myself as a guru, or an expert on self-improvement.

I have a desire to empower others, but my authority in that field is limited.

You don’t go to shoe stores to buy lemons.

And you don’t go to a chronically depressed person for advice on being non-depressed.

You can come to me when you want a voyeuristic peak into someone’s soul.

Or when you want to let your freak flag fly without a modicum of judgment.

That’s what I’m good for.

And I’ll get up every day, and do the best I can to do better than the day before.

Except the days I don’t try at all.

But most days, I’ll try in some way, shape, or form.

And maybe someday together, we’ll solve all the riddles of our setbacks.

Then nobody will need gurus.

In actuality, no one ever did…

Also published on Medium.