It is unwise to just ignore your problems and expect them to go away by themselves.
When your problems are with your friends, it is both unwise and malicious to ignore them.
You might think, “Out of sight, out of mind,” but that’s just selfish self-service, and it won’t get you far.
The longer you give the silent treatment, the more neglectful you become.
Neglect is a form of abuse.
When a baby is neglected for too long, she dies. Same with kids and adults under certain circumstances.
If you’re ignoring your friends, then yes, they have to find other ways to meet their needs. You should never be expected to meet every single need of your friends. It’s not like they are helpless babies.
But when you take away a golden friendship from someone without explanation and without warning, that’s some cold shit.
That has happened to me over these past couple years.
The friendship is straight up gone. No reason. No explanation. Just an empty throbbing.
It makes me want to say viscous, wicked things to that person. I want to curse their name as I cry out in pain.
But there has been enough wicked viciousness in life.
So, it behooves me to just let myself throb. Be empty. Forgive. Let go. Move on.
Also published on Medium.