When people expect you to be who you were yesterday

It’s frustrating when you’ve spent a lot of time in a low-functioning funk, and people get used to you being that way.

Then, you have a good day and feel like you can handle a little more than usual. You spark some hope inside.

Like: “Maybe if I do more today, then I can do even more tomorrow, string together some days and pull this life into shape.”

But the people in your life still expect you to be who you were yesterday.

And if you’re careless, that expectation might even drag you back into being who you were yesterday.

It can be disheartening to finally feel a gush of life, and then have people treat you like you’re still dead.

But it’s not their fault. That’s just how people are. People generally expect things to be the way they were last time.

So understanding that is important.

Understanding and communication.

Instead of getting mad when someone treats you like, “Hey, maybe you should sit down,” just be glad they don’t want you to get hurt.

Then explain, “Hey, I think I’ve got this. Having a good day. Wouldn’t it be awesome if I can string a few of these together and see what happens?”

See, if you’re like me, sometimes you just get angry and skip right to the, “Stop treating me like I can’t do anything!” part.

Or, I don’t even say anything, and eat a mountain of food.

Understanding and communication works out better, probably.

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