You’re going to screw up.
Sometimes, you’ll screw up while swearing up and down you’re doing the right thing.
The right thing often hurts other people though.
I’ve heard it said that it’s a mark of true bravery to do the right thing, even when you know it’ll hurt people you love.
Sure, that’s brave. But there are consequences. Some of the people you love will despise you, if your right thing goes against their expectations of your characteristics that they value the most.
This puts you in an impossible situation. It means you’re screwing up even if you’re doing the right thing.
And you can try to explain yourself, but some people just don’t want to hear it.
This is no small crisis. It’s possible some of those people were once those in which your heart had the greatest hopes and visions.
But if your actions trigger them to the point they can’t hear you anymore…
And if your “right thing” is a dire tragedy in their eyes, and they can’t find it in themselves to shift their perspectives…
Then you can pine for the glory days of your hopes and dreams with those people, or you can let go and move on.
As far as I know, letting go of that which despises you is generally better than holding onto it.
In much the same way, that it’s preferable to move away from an inferno than to move into it.
Then again, maybe you can handle the flame. Only you know for sure.
I can only speak for myself. For the last couple years, I have been holding onto some infernos that only weigh me down and incinerate my resolve to operate at full capacity.
I have an open door policy in my life. I don’t care if you’ve spent years hating me. Or if you despise me now. Or if you’ve threatened to kill me. I’m always available to reconcile, if you’re willing to give me the slightest crumb of effort in the name of peace and harmony between us.
But for my door to open, you have to knock.
I’ve waited for long enough already, staring out the door, waiting for you to show up to no avail. I have other matters to attend to. And you’ll always be worth attending to, but I need to do what I need to do in order to protect myself and ensure the realization of my own hopes and dreams, and the hopes and dreams of as many people as possible.
For those who have been distraught by my “right thing.” I am sorry. I care. Ask me how much I care, and I’ll serenade you with a tome that rivals War & Peace. But if you don’t ask, I simply have nothing more to say of it.
I have screwed up. Even when my performance was perfect.
I’ll screw up in the future, even though I have learned from past mistakes.
Because screwing up is rarely an objective phenomenon. And all of us are always doing our best with what we’ve been given.
With over seven billion subjective worlds out there (and that’s just the humans), someone is bound to see your noblest effort as lower than dirt.
So, keep in mind. Dirt is valuable. What’s beneath dirt is just as important as what’s above it. Many people will forget this, but you can keep it in mind, and be equipped to know the validity of your path at all times. No matter who degrades and torments you, you are where you’re supposed to be right now. If you were supposed to be somewhere else, you would be…
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